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Marven Ye received a call. The woman on the other end of the phone said that she is 49 years old this year, living a decent life to outsiders, her husband has a high income and no affair, and her children have grown up.twin flame karmic partner
On the surface, this marriage is close to perfect, but she feels that she is very painful, there is no love in the marriage .twin flame karmic partner
I say Im not happy, Im miserable, everyone thinks Im sick .twin flame karmic partner
The audiences confusion was revealed invisibly Modern womens reflections on family and self-feelings are also one of the countless emotional stories that Ye Wen heard.
Listening to the hearts of ordinary people and solving the audiences emotional confusion is a great The main content of the work. She is a well-known emotional show host, and the radio program Ye Wen has something to say is a household name in the three eastern provinces. Through calls from the audience, Marven Ye has witnessed all kinds of emotional difficulties. She is known as the wildest voice over Heilongjiang because of her straightforward and pungent conversation, which is a common memory of Northeasterners more than ten years ago.twin flame karmic partner
At its peak, the listening rate of “Ye Wen Has Something to Say” was as high as 30%, and the radio station in the same period The show is less than 1%. As an emotional program, “Marven Ye has something to say” is inseparable from common emotional problems such as derailment and domestic violence, but in addition to this, the program focuses on many issues that are still pioneering today:twin flame karmic partnerp>
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Until today, Marven Ye still hosts this show and goes to the Internet to face more peoples emotional issues.She believes that hidden humanity can be reflected through a persons attitude towards emotions.twin flame karmic partner
From the traditional radio station to the emotional live broadcast room, Ye Wen has experienced eighteen years. How have the emotional patterns of the Chinese people changed over the years? What are people suffering from today?twin flame karmic partner
Eighteen years after the “Ye Wen has something to say” program, we found Ye Wen , tells us the story behind the show, and the changing times she sees from the troubles of ordinary people.twin flame karmic partner
The following is Ye Wens self-report.
In 1999, I graduated from the Department of History of Heilongjiang University, and I got into the radio by accident. Radio hosting was my first job. There were more than a dozen young people who dialed into the Heilongjiang Peoples Broadcasting Station. Later, two of them became hosts and the others became reporters. I was also frustrated because of why I couldnt be a reporter.twin flame karmic partner
When I was in college, there were very few domestic colleges and universities that specialized in teaching broadcasting and hosting. Many people in this industry are half-way monks and have never received professional training. They can only learn from their predecessors and practice slowly by themselves. Step by step, cross the river by feeling the stones.twin flame karmic partner
A few years before I joined the radio station, I broadcasted news, did service, night talk, Variety shows, can be said to be related to several types of radio programs, I have dabbled in all of them.twin flame karmic partner
At the end of 2004, I only took over “Something to Say”. is social news. I went to study the ratings and real-time listening effects with the broadcast director at the time, and found that listeners had the strongest demand for the emotional realm of social news.twin flame karmic partner
In January 2005, we renamed the program “Ye Wen has something to say”, focusing on In the field of marriage and love, there is a strong personal style of hosting. I have also started taking calls from the audience since then, and this hosting form has gradually become fixed.twin flame karmic partner
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At that time, I was in my twenties and had not been married for a few years. When I received the first phone call, I was not used to it. After the caller finished speaking, I panicked and told him, what is it, I will listen When youre done, put the phone down first.twin flame karmic partner
I felt that emotion was a very complicated thing at the time, I lacked confidence and felt it (emotional program) Only people who are very old and have rich life experience can do it well.twin flame karmic partner
However, this lack of self-confidence and inability to communicate only lasted for one day, and the next day I back to normal. Guan Mingyu, a resident psychological consultant on the show, is also my close friend. He said that I have a stronger empathy ability than others, so I can quickly enter other peoples experiences.twin flame karmic partner
The program is broadcast from 4:30 to 6:00 pm every day, and about 300 calls are made to the director Between 40 and 50 calls were screened, and between 3-6 incoming calls were received.twin flame karmic partner
I am very engaged in every call I take, listening intently to what the other person is saying.In the traditional Chinese concept, family ugliness should not be made public, and most people are reluctant to show their vulnerable side in front of outsiders.twin flame karmic partner
If they hadnt been forced to die, they wouldnt have been beaten Call me.twin flame karmic partner
A friend who studies big data said that the ratio of males and females in my audience is close to 46%, and the same is true for males Focus on emotional issues, but women are good at expressing, and men want to talk about their family affairs in secret. There are also many men who are ashamed to open their mouths and carry a heavy gender burden.twin flame karmic partner
I was impressed by a call from a man. He and his wife have a very good relationship and are engaged in a profession that is particularly respected by outsiders. The two have met and fell in love since college, and they are deeply in love. They are the kind of couple that others will envy.twin flame karmic partner
Suddenly one day, the man found out that his wife was cheating on him. After finding out, the wife quickly admitted her mistake and cut off contact with her lover. The wifes momentary slip made both of them miserable. This man once thought that his marriage was perfect, even if there were problems in marriages all over the world, his own marriage would not.twin flame karmic partner
Stills from “Love Is Lost”twin flame karmic partner
It was the pain of being destroyed, he told me that half of his hair had turned white since he found out his wife was having an affair.twin flame karmic partner
He finally chose to forgive his wife, but his heart was still very painful, and he just gritted his teeth and did not mention it.Love is exclusive, and the parties understand better than anyone else that they just cant get over this hurdle.twin flame karmic partner
This gentleman came to me not to seek any solution, but to me confide. He asked me, was it a mistake for me to choose to forgive her?twin flame karmic partner
I told him that in your current state, it would only be more painful to leave your wife. I suggest that he talk to a psychiatrist, or change the setting with his wife.twin flame karmic partner
The more emotional and sensitive a person is, the easier it is to get overwhelmed by this kind of thing.twin flame karmic partner
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From 2005 to now, I have received about 100,000 consultation calls.
In addition to emotional confusion, I also received some unexpected calls. She lost her mind and wanted to commit suicide, saying she wanted to see me before she died; and a female college student called and said that she had been sexually assaulted by her biological father for several years…twin flame karmic partner
From the radio station to the live studio, I heard too many bizarre and unbelievable stories, as if I have walked into the most hidden and darkest part of human nature, and heard a lot The thing that a man will never believe in his whole life has also heard the most painful cry.twin flame karmic partner
If you come into contact with similar things a lot, you will find that people who value love and righteousness are almost the same , people with a lack of moral sense are similar.twin flame karmic partner
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But until now, every time I receive a call from the audience and hear them express their pain and grievance, I still It would be sad, and it was hard not to be moved when they told me the most secret things.twin flame karmic partner
Over the years, people often say to me:
If it werent for you, my family relationship wouldnt be better now;
If it wasnt for you, I wouldnt want to change my temper;twin flame karmic partner
If it wasnt for you…
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I would be happy if I could help the audience. On the contrary, if I really cant help them for various reasons, the feeling of powerlessness is scorching.twin flame karmic partner
We have made many return visits to the audience to ask questions about the The current situation of the audience. But to be honest, some people have indeed changed, but very few people can really get out of the predicament.twin flame karmic partner
More than ten years ago, I received a call from a young Her boyfriend lives together and has a child, but her boyfriend often beats her to such an extent that she can break bones.twin flame karmic partner
It was the time when MMS was still being sent, she sent a photo with many parts of her body. The place was swollen and swollen, and the child was beaten.twin flame karmic partner
Still from “Dont Talk to Strangers”
I said, hurry up, hurry up, get out of that man, and take the child to a place where he cant find it. I feel very scary, but I dont Advised her to call the police, why? Because then men would beat her to death.twin flame karmic partner
that man Its really scary. When I look back now, I can even think of the Ram case. I advise the girl to leave him as soon as possible.twin flame karmic partner
Three years later, the girl called again, guess what? She said she was married to that man. The man still called her, this time she called to ask,he What if you still hit me?twin flame karmic partner
I was about to lose control and I was Tell her not to continue living with this kind of person, it will be life-threatening, you can go to the sub-district office or the Womens Federation for help, I told her all the ways I know for help.twin flame karmic partner
Maybe in another two years she will call me and tell me that her leg is broken and she will continue to ask What should I do? I think Ill pick up the phone then and keep telling her this.twin flame karmic partner
There are not many such examples. When I was young, I was very curious, why is it all like this, these women are still reluctant to leave the family, they used to be so angry that their eyes were bleeding, but after doing emotional shows for many years, I understand.< strong>People will be affected by growth, education experience and personality, and the way of doing things will also be limited by these factors, so when encountering the same predicament, some people escape, and some people stop in place.twin flame karmic partner
Now I hear this kind of thing, I feel more distressed, especially in the short video live broadcast room, I have contact with many grassroots Working women, the more I communicate with them, the more distressed I feel.twin flame karmic partner
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Their growth experience and family relationship will even affect their childrens education. After I finish a case, I will tell everyone what they need What kind of books to read to avoid making children repeat the same mistakes, emphasizing: dont beat children, dont belittle children, and encourage them a lot.twin flame karmic partner
I am a person with a big heart, otherwise I would not be able to do this, but there are times when it is very painful , some people live or how to live after they put down the phone,I cant convince him, nor can I change him, it seems pointless to do this (suggestion to the audience). Thinking of this, my scalp exploded.twin flame karmic partner
I occasionally feel like giving up because of this. A lot of times I think, whats the point of doing this thing (emotional show)? I cant do anything. Whenever I think about this, I say to my colleagues, I really want to retire.twin flame karmic partner
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Ive always wanted to do something meaningful, but meaning is hard.twin flame karmic partner
To this day, I am still doing radio, and traditional media monopolize the public’s information The source, radio is one of them. You have to listen to it, and you have to listen to it. If the audience wants to get information and a sense of fun and participation, they have to go through traditional media.twin flame karmic partner
But it is different now, everyone can make a small radio station by themselves, everyone is a The speaker, a host, so traditional radio, including myself, was hit very, very much.twin flame karmic partner
The radio station gradually declined. A few years ago, when the dating show was popular, I tried hosting to help young people I didnt do a show where people were looking for a partner, because I always felt that I was not at ease, I was entrusted by others, and I was loyal. This (hosting a blind date show) was a great responsibility.twin flame karmic partner
In 2020, I will come into contact with some videos one after another Platform and online live broadcast room, so far my live broadcast room is not very big. In the new media, the hosts of traditional media, except for those with a particularly large coffee position, almost all of them have fallen into the sand.twin flame karmic partner
You can say what kind of listening miracle Marven Ye has created in the history of radio listening, but when the time comes In the age of new media, I am like a grain of sand thrown into the vast desert.twin flame karmic partner
From the radio station to the live room, after watching my video, many people said Youre not that fierce, Marven Ye, youve changed. Someone still said that when I was broadcasting live today. In fact, I was like this ten years ago and twenty years ago, and it hasnt changed.twin flame karmic partner
Maybe as I get older, I have been doing this show for almost 20 years, and I myself To grow up, 20 years old and 40 years old, peoples personalities must be different.twin flame karmic partner
It’s not just me, but with the development of the times, the audience is also changing.twin flame karmic partner
As of this year, I have been doing this show for 18 years. What I hear is more about peoples complaints and dissatisfaction with their marriage. They are usually suppressed to a certain extent, and they will come to me.twin flame karmic partner
In those years the audience told about cheating , domestic violence, affair and other related topics, what should I do if my husband/wife cheated? Now these situations still exist, but what is more,more mens and womens thinking about the value of their lives, and their taste of pain.twin flame karmic partner
People pay more attention to their personal feelings and pay attention to their inner changes. It was very different in the past.twin flame karmic partner
Two days ago, a woman cried to me in the live broadcast room:twin flame karmic partner< /p>
Everyone makes me think about my children, my family, my husband, including my parents, Turn a blind eye to my pain, I do not understand, why no one will think for me?twin flame karmic partner
This sentence is very representative.twin flame karmic partner
She began to think that in the past women were taught that giving oneself to family and children is a Its normal, its right, dont doubt it.
As people become more concerned with personal feelings, doubts arise:It is true Is it normal? Is this unfair to me? If I live like this all my life, can I bear it?twin flame karmic partner
“Thirteenth Meeting with Ye Wen”
Someone even told me that after the rise of divorce, because you are getting more divorces Now, I said you shouldnt lift it up.twin flame karmic partner
In my opinion, the biggest change, past and present, is peoples perception of marriage. In the past, people thought marriage was a compulsory course, but in the hearts of todays young people, marriage is an elective course.twin flame karmic partner
Many young people who are not married start to think whether marriage will make me better or worse ? After marriage, people will also measure their position in the marriage.twin flame karmic partner
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My most recent listener was a 49-year-old woman. Her marriage to her husband has always been very bland, without any sense of passion and ceremony.twin flame karmic partner
She said,We have everything in life except love.twin flame karmic partner
The female listeners husband appears to be suave, does chores at home, and Take care of the kids, but its hard for two people to even give a hug. Her husband holds a view that after all these years of marriage, there is nothing to be intimate with an old husband and wife.twin flame karmic partner
The reason they got married was that both of them were over 30 years old, and they were already very big at the time. Married and married, so that for so many years, they have been living very plain.twin flame karmic partner
stills from the TV series “Disqualification”twin flame karmic partner
The husband never hugs his wife, does not celebrate a birthday for her, and never gives her any gifts. For her husband, this is all formalism.twin flame karmic partner
One day in the middle of the night, the husband lay on the sofa in the living room without falling asleep, and the wife woke up in a daze. Leaning on her husband, she wanted to draw some warmth from her husband. At the moment of encounter, her husband immediately avoided, her body lost her balance, and she fell on the sofa.twin flame karmic partner
The wife was very surprised, her husband only said one sentence, no bones?twin flame karmic partner
Another time, this female audience member attended the class reunion, and the party ended at eleven oclock in the evening. She wanted to call her husband to take her home. When I called my husband, the husband said, take a taxi back by yourself.twin flame karmic partner
She was a little scared. A while ago, there was a woman nearby who had an accident in a taxi and said you Come pick me up, Im afraid.twin flame karmic partner
My husband said I was busy, so take a taxi by yourself. The phone hangs up.twin flame karmic partner
When she got a taxi back, she saw her husband lying on the sofa watching TV.twin flame karmic partner
Are you busy?twin flame karmic partner
Yeah.twin flame karmic partner
You dont come to pick me up, arent you afraid that something will happen to me?twin flame karmic partner
Oh, dont keep thinking bad things about yourself.twin flame karmic partner
Her husband is fine, huh Hu Da fell asleep, and the lady was in great pain. When she called, she cried and said: I am not happy, I am in pain.twin flame karmic partner
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She cant tell others, in the eyes of outsiders, her husband does not prostitute or gamble, and his income is high, no matter who I tell you, I want to get a divorce and people think Im mentally ill.twin flame karmic partner
Actually, I understand this audience very well, she is a woman with delicate emotions and longing for love, without love , without the care and the care her husband deserves, she is really miserable.twin flame karmic partner
I said, don’t worry, I don’t think you are mentally ill. You dont need to think about how others think about it, and you dont need to think about how your husband thinks about it. Dont complicate this matter, just live it the way you want.twin flame karmic partner
Many people choose different people from most people, that is, they are sick, I Encountered many similar situations.twin flame karmic partner
An older mother called and said her daughter was 30 years old She didnt want to get married yet, so I asked me to help find a psychiatrist. She thought her daughter was sick.twin flame karmic partner
This mother thinks that you (daughter) are different from others in that you did not marry and have children step by step, Just sick.twin flame karmic partner
There are several girls in our office who are single, about 32, 33 years old, these young girls in the office After hearing this case, the first reaction was that this mother should go to see a doctor.twin flame karmic partner
Why do young people think I have to live your way, I choose one that makes me It is my freedom to be able to feel a happy way of life.twin flame karmic partner
Through this show, over the years, I seem to be able to see Many peoples lives have changed, and they can even see the changes of the times and the changes in their thinking. At the same time, I am growing myself, which is a wonderful feeling.twin flame karmic partner
Someone once asked me why I kept doing “Marven Ye has something to say” , I said that I want to help as many people as I can, not to sing a high profile for myself, but to make me feel very happy and happy, and feel that life has meaning.twin flame karmic partner
It is great to be able to work and make money, be meaningful, and help others.twin flame karmic partner
To this day, I feel more and more that doing this (emotional) show has become a responsibility. For some people, my advice seems like a no-brainer, but for others, I may be her light in the night, pointing out her current problems.twin flame karmic partner
I cant help but feel a sense of mission when I hear so many women living like that. I hope to tell them:twin flame karmic partner
In fact, you can live in another way, Make yourself better.twin flame karmic partner
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